My Heart & Soul
Winning Others Over
As I previously mentioned, one of my top 5 strengths is woo. In Strengths Finder 2.0 the author Tom Rath states, “Woo stands for winning others over. You enjoy the challenge of meeting new people and getting them to like you.” That statement is so true for me. I want to be likeable. I desire to get along with everyone. I continued reading that chapter, and realized something that I had never been really comfortable with about myself. I have my best friends, a small close group of people I know I can always rely on, past that I have acquaintances. These are people that I have met through life’s journey, I usually refer to them as my friends, but the relationship never ventures out past a coffee or lunch date. I am beginning to realize, I am okay with that.
Sunday night I went out with some of my closest friends. This group included my amazing boyfriend Tyler, my childhood best friend Kaylee, and my two newest friends that have been blessing my life, Matt and Makenzie. We had so much laughing, talking, taking pictures, and just enjoying each others company. I am so incredibly blessed that these people, who didn’t know each other this time last year, have come to know and love each other just as I have come to know and love them. After dinner I realized, that woo truely is one of my strengths. So what if I don’t have 600 friends…okay so on facebook I am getting close to that, but as I said most of those are people I have met on my journeys. I am determined to use my woo to it’s complete advantage!
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When One Door Closes, Another Always Opens
I have come to realize over the last month or two…I actually have no idea who I am. I tried to define myself and realized I can’t even do that. And I will tell you why…
For the last, roughly, 12 years I have helped my mom raise my younger sister and brother. Although we are all only a year apart, I took on the role as a young child of playing “mommy.” I am now realizing since my sister and brother are now 18 and 19, big sister isn’t needed so much. Mind you, my mom has already come to the realization of this and accepted it…I just can’t quite grasp the idea. My
ADORABLE brother will be a senior in the fall, and my sister will be a college sophomore. Needless to say, they are raised. And my constant running over to pick them up, dust them off, dry their tears, and hold their hands is not wanted, appreciated, or needed anymore. Yeah, that’s a hard one to down…for me at least.
I am also struggling with my next big step. As a student at a junior college entering my third year, this would be my major, what school I will be going to, where I will live, if I will have roommates, and how I will afford it all. My delimna is…I don’t know what I want to major in anymore therefore I don’t no where I will be transfering to. For someone who plans everything, this does not sit easy with me. I’ve always known what I wanted to do and where I wanted to go. For the first time in my life, I’m lost and don’t know where to turn.
I recently visited my great-aunt in Austin. She gave me a book to read called, Strength Finder 2.0. As humans, most of the time, we are so focused on our weaknesses and we can improve them that we lose sight on what our actual strengths are. This book, with the help of an online quiz, helps you pick out your 5 strengths, defines those strengths, and gives you ways to help capitalize on those strengths. I am loving every minute of this book actually. My 5 strengths are communication, input, restorative, strategic, and woo. This book is helping raise my confidence and learn things about myself. I am so encouraged to use it!
For the first time in 9 months, I find myself under my mom’s roof again. I am trying to transition back into a mode where I have to check in, let her know where I will be, and if I will be home that night. I have decided to take the next semester or two off from school. This is potentially pushing my graduation date a year to 2 years back, but I am okay with this. I need some self discovery time. I honestly believe that success is not measured on the money you make, the cars you drive, or the house you live in, but whether you enjoy it and can wake up and face yourself the next day.
I plan on devoting a lot of time to God during this time of self discovery because a person cannot truly discover themselves if they don’t know what they are looking for. I know as long as God is by my side, I will have focus and He will know my destination.
I am excited and nervous about it all, but I know the Lord would never lead me into a dark room blind and alone. I also have the best friends a girl could ask for and the love of an amazing man.
I leave you with this, my favorite verse…
Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you. - Psalm 37:5
The Perfect Gift
Tyler and I have been dating for a year and 7 months. No big deal even if that is my longest relationship. Just a little over a month into our relationship was my birthday. I was in two previous relationships where one I was lavished with expensive gifts and the other had me pay for half our dates since I was the one with a job. When Tyler asked me what I wanted for my birthday, I responded with, “I don’t know. You don’t have to get me anything.” Tyler told me we could go to the mall, and he would but me anything I wanted. I hate to be spoiled. That’s just not me. I also hate when guys use me.
So I took into deep consideration when Tyler said he wanted he would buy me anything. I remembered that Tyler’s dad had meantioned one morning in church when I went up to meet them, that Tyler had a very good singing voice and used to be in a group at church. So I asked Tyler if he would sing to me. That was all I wanted for my birthday. My birthday came and Tyler explained that he doesn’t like to sing alone. He gets really nervous.
Well last night, a year and a half after my birthday, we were listening to my favorite song She’s Like Texas by Josh Abbott Band. Tyler looked at me and asked if I’d like him to sing that song to me. I got so excited and said yes! After restarting the song several times, he finally sang it for me. I was beyond delighted. I had the biggest smile on my face and kept hugging and kissing him. I don’t care that it took a year and a half for him to sing for me. It’s the fact that he felt comfortable enough to do it out of the clear blue. I am so in love with that boy.
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